Well, had I collected a
penny for every bit of irrelevant, bizarre and downright ridiculous advice I
have been given…let’s just say my bank would be very pleased with me!
Everyone is so quick to dispense advice, almost like a birth right, a sacrosanct ritual, without which one’s day would be bland and completely lacking. Almost like food without salt Unthinkable!
What is even more amazing is the absolute authority with which and the lightning speed at which, people dispense their verbal gems.
When should Sachin retire? How should the country be run? How do we handle the whole Pakistan-Kashmir issue? What is the truth behind the Devyani Khobragade fiasco? Blah blah blah and then some.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am totally for opinions, debates even arguments. But some are so nauseatingly stupid that one can’t help but puke.
Of course, it pinches more when supposedly well-meaning friends and relatives seem to know how to run your life better than you!
People are terribly worried these days about how I will spend my old age and, dear lord, who will take care of me & hubby. Let me explain…what I mean.
I am well into my 30’s and don’t have a kid. Hubby & I have gone from adopting a kid to not wanting a kid to maybe wanting to kidnap one for a week or two without ransom.
A personal choice which is not required to be explained to all & sundry, but then it doesn't work like that, does it now?
So everyone has taken it upon themselves to drill some sense in my obviously empty head.
A very concerned well-wisher asks if I have thought about this decision. Have I seen a gynecologist? Do I know the biological clock is ticking furiously? Err no…I was just waiting for someone smart like you to come along and advise, moron!
Another time when people are happily advising is when one is expecting. When my sister was expecting…we were drowned in a deluge of sometimes-sane-most-times-stupid-advice.
She had a C-section due to a last minute emergency. Of course many people thought her doctor was stupid to suggest it.
We should have waited, we should have protested and, best for the last…we should have taken a 2nd opinion!
Seriously? Didn't know there were so many closet doctors!
Of course these are serious issues and people can’t help themselves.
But even when it comes to mundane stuff people can’t resist their urge to split their lips and pour the wise wine of words.
Which car to buy, where to vacation, how to spend one’s weekend (Yes, believe me…I have been advised on how & where to spend it!).
A simple thing they miss is…if I really needed their pearls of wisdom; would I not ask them?! Shouldn't the very fact that I did not call them before making a purchase, tell them that I don’t care much about what they think!
The next time someone starts with: “If you don’t mind me saying so…” I think I am going to go for the jugular. Guess what? I do mind, so shut up.
If I needed your advice, I will ask. Until then I can manage my life on my own.
Thank you very much.
Everyone is so quick to dispense advice, almost like a birth right, a sacrosanct ritual, without which one’s day would be bland and completely lacking. Almost like food without salt Unthinkable!
What is even more amazing is the absolute authority with which and the lightning speed at which, people dispense their verbal gems.
When should Sachin retire? How should the country be run? How do we handle the whole Pakistan-Kashmir issue? What is the truth behind the Devyani Khobragade fiasco? Blah blah blah and then some.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am totally for opinions, debates even arguments. But some are so nauseatingly stupid that one can’t help but puke.
Of course, it pinches more when supposedly well-meaning friends and relatives seem to know how to run your life better than you!
People are terribly worried these days about how I will spend my old age and, dear lord, who will take care of me & hubby. Let me explain…what I mean.
I am well into my 30’s and don’t have a kid. Hubby & I have gone from adopting a kid to not wanting a kid to maybe wanting to kidnap one for a week or two without ransom.
A personal choice which is not required to be explained to all & sundry, but then it doesn't work like that, does it now?
So everyone has taken it upon themselves to drill some sense in my obviously empty head.
A very concerned well-wisher asks if I have thought about this decision. Have I seen a gynecologist? Do I know the biological clock is ticking furiously? Err no…I was just waiting for someone smart like you to come along and advise, moron!
Another time when people are happily advising is when one is expecting. When my sister was expecting…we were drowned in a deluge of sometimes-sane-most-times-stupid-advice.
She had a C-section due to a last minute emergency. Of course many people thought her doctor was stupid to suggest it.
We should have waited, we should have protested and, best for the last…we should have taken a 2nd opinion!
Seriously? Didn't know there were so many closet doctors!
Of course these are serious issues and people can’t help themselves.
But even when it comes to mundane stuff people can’t resist their urge to split their lips and pour the wise wine of words.
Which car to buy, where to vacation, how to spend one’s weekend (Yes, believe me…I have been advised on how & where to spend it!).
A simple thing they miss is…if I really needed their pearls of wisdom; would I not ask them?! Shouldn't the very fact that I did not call them before making a purchase, tell them that I don’t care much about what they think!
The next time someone starts with: “If you don’t mind me saying so…” I think I am going to go for the jugular. Guess what? I do mind, so shut up.
If I needed your advice, I will ask. Until then I can manage my life on my own.
Thank you very much.
